What is worry? and why do we worry?
By definition it is to ‘feel uneasy or concerned about something’ perhapps ‘anxious, distressed or troubled’.
Worrying is something that i think all of us do or have done at some point in our lives. Some to varying degrees to others. Be having to take an exam at school, go for a job interview or been a blushing bride on her wedding day!
There are situations daily where we are faced with some kind of worry and in some basic form worry is just fear. Fear of failure or rejection or the future. Worry is linked to everything and while some might just accept what they have or do, others might dwell upon the past.
Having worry can cause a great many effects both physically and mentally. Physically there are signs we are all aware of like feeling sick or ill, having butterflies in your stomach and even in extreme cases physically shaking. Mentally worry can cause sleeplessness, paranoia, lack of self confidence and even depression… the list goes on.
All of these symptoms though have a trigger, a source. It’s all about cause and effect.
Are there ways to stop worrying? I’d be inclined to say no. Though i’d be open to the notion that there are ways to reduce or maybe prevent worrying.
Changing your diet is something will not only improve your health but well-being. Sugary drinks and caffeine contain stimulants which can increase anxiety and symptoms of tension like headaches. Including weekly exercise not only helps improve your physical fitness but produces endorphins helps improve your mood and give you something else to focus your mind on. This is something i do and i can say categorically that my mood does improve after i have been to the gym. When i dont go for more then 2 maybe 3 days i’d stay out my way lol i’m definitely more inclined to be ratty or in a bad mood!
Being in control of any given situation is a way to reduce worry. Obviously you cant control everything but you can prepare yourself as best as possible. This can be anything from revising for an exam, preparing thoroughly for a job interview or planning a strategy for your working day. Preparation is the key here.
Do something! This may sound simple i know, but if there is something which is causing you be be anxious or worry then do something about it. Don’t just let the situation envelop you, stand up, make a change… take action! If you hate your job… find a new one. If you have concerns about someone’s feeling or emotion… talk to them. Talking about things i a great way relieve tension. Keeping things pent up inside helps no one and thus no one can help you! A problem shared is a problem halved they say. Having the support of a friend or family member can dramatically reduce worry and help support you though any difficult period.
Not all worry is bad it has to be said. That ‘nervous’ worry performers get is caused by increased adrenaline running though their body. In the right person this can help spur on a performance or i guess on the flip side cause the sickening fear which a lot of people get. I think it depends a lot on the person.
What I’m basically saying is that not all worry is bad and that some worry can even spur you on to take action, prepare yourself and so calm your mind.
Some people set aside time to worry in their lives. ‘I’ll worry about that later’ and literally not think about a worrying situation until later in the day. This is something which works for a lot of people. Setting aside a regular time of the day/ week to do this might be the best way forward. So that things don’t get put off and put off.
Writing things down before you go to bed is a great way to collect your thoughts and will stop you from worrying about things while you sleep. hopefully aiding in a more restful nights sleep.
I worry. About all sorts of things and the only way i can stop worrying is to be in control. For me preparation is the key. I keep myself physically fit by going to the gym four times a week which gives me focus outside of work and life. I leave any problems and worries at the door and focus solely on working out (like a dog i might add!).